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Shopping for my Thoughts: How I Shift My Mind from Negative to Positive

November 2, 2021

Shopping for my thoughts: How I shift my mind from negative to positive.

My brain is wired to go down a rabbit hole once I begin thinking about one problem. What if this happens? Did she/he think that I was stupid? Are they going to like me? What if I get into a car accident? If I don’t remember to choose my thoughts, I worry all day every day.

I’ve learned that this is pretty normal but it is also within my power to retrain my thoughts. I am now intentionally shopping for my thoughts and I’m careful of what I decide to put in my shopping cart. With 86,400 seconds in a day and an average of 30,000-60,000 thoughts per day, I want to make sure I’m thinking positive thoughts most of the time!

I used to think all of my thoughts were true and somewhere along my journey, I started questioning myself. Now, I watch everything I see, hear and think like a hawk.

Because we all filter life through our experiences, oftentimes the events happening now reflect my past experiences. My story of an experience looks much different than how others may perceive it.

The movie or the book, The Secret, explains how our thoughts create our reality. You may understand the concept that the more we complain about and admire the problem, the more of these problems show up in our life. If we focus on gratitude, then more good things magically appear also! That’s why it is important to go shopping for our thoughts! Here is how I do this.

We all have this voice inside us that could win an Olympic medal for negative self-talk. Most of us don’t discuss this. We joke and say, “You have no idea how much negativity is in my head!” I’ve worked really hard at retraining my brain to control these old thought patterns.

I’ve decided to sort my thoughts and pretend like I’m shopping for clothes, except now I’m shopping for my thoughts. Some colors and styles I like and some I downright wouldn’t spend a dime on!

When I have a thought, I ask these questions:


  • Where did this thought come from? Was it related to a past experience?

  • Do I need to believe this thought?

  • How could I flip the thought, like turning on a light switch?

  • If I was talking to a friend, what would I say to them about the thought?

  • And the last, and most crucial question, Do I want more of these thoughts?

If the answer to the last question is yes, then I am good. If the answer is no, then it’s time to flip the switch and change my thoughts.

Most of our negative thoughts come from a place to try to keep us safe. This is useful when we are facing real danger. When driving a car, we need to listen to these thoughts so that we don’t crash. If there is no real danger happening at the moment, then it’s important to reframe my thinking.

Here is what I think to myself:

“Why, thank you for trying to keep me safe! I so appreciate your quest to take good care of me! I don’t need these ideas right now. I’m really not interested in purchasing your merchandise right now. You see, there is another opportunity for me and I am grateful for all of the good things in my life.”

An example of this might be if I was running late, normally I would have apologized, felt bad and been so worried about the other person being angry. Instead, I say, “Thank you so much for waiting for me.” Do you see how that totally changed the energy of the situation? The other person may still be a bit angry that I was late but there is nothing that I can do about it and there really is nothing to be so worried about. Maybe I got stuck in traffic, maybe I needed to help someone. Whatever the reason, there is no sense in wasting time and energy being upset about it. As the old saying goes, “there’s no use crying over spilled milk”.

I also apply this concept to people. I listen to people and then determine if their ideas belong in my shopping cart or if I am just looking through a window and not buying the merchandise. I have no idea what other people are thinking or why they are thinking it. I screen these ideas just like I am shopping for clothes. Some I like and others I don’t. I don’t have to buy all of the ideas during my shopping trip!

My brain is wired to immediately think negative thoughts. It’s how I grew up and something that I stayed stuck in for a long time. In order to rewire, I have to work on it every day.

There is a saying, “Penny for your thoughts.” Well, my thoughts are worth way more than a penny. They are like golden nuggets that shape my life. I’ll make sure to shop for good ones!

I began my gratitude journey before the pandemic but now it is more important than ever to make sure I am using the concepts of quantum spirituality- that our thoughts create our life and our reality. I’m so ready to go on a shopping spree for good thoughts!

I hope you learn to recognize this built-in human safety feature and then rewire your thoughts.

In Love and Light,

~Monica

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